Just the mention of the word can bring up a lot of different feelings and reactions. There are often a lot of expectations surrounding sex and sometimes a lot of feelings of shame. Unfortunately, that means people search online and get their ideas about sex from not-so-trustworthy sources rather than close friends or family.
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Many bible verses have been interpreted by religious teachers as meaning that a sexual thought is the equivalent to having physically engaged in that behavior. Case in point: "Anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart. In other words, we can sin just by thinking. In fact, on an average day, college men think about sex 34 times while women think about sex 19 times. All of these studies were conducted in Israel and they focused on comparing religious and secular adolescents aged 14 to 18 in terms of how they dealt with unwanted sexual thoughts and the implications this had for their mental health. The overall pattern that emerged was that, not surprisingly, religious adolescents reported being more preoccupied and concerned with their sexual thoughts and fantasies than did secular adolescents. The second study involved adolescents and replicated the findings from the first study; however, it also found that religious adolescents had lower psychological well-being. Specifically, they were less happy and reported feeling less calm and peaceful. The third study consisted of adolescents and it went a step further than the two previous studies by testing—and finding support for—a statistical model in which 1 being religious predicted putting more effort into suppressing and avoiding sexual thoughts, 2 suppression predicted more obsessive preoccupation with unwanted sexual thoughts, and 3 preoccupation, in turn, predicted lower levels of psychological well-being.
Teaching people their sexual thoughts are “dirty” or “impure” has problematic consequences.
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Are you looking to exert some control over your thoughts? Here are some tips and guidelines that you can follow to help stop thinking about sex. Biologically speaking, it is next to impossible to stop thinking about sex completely, as your body instinctively drives to reproduce. Sex is not always the topic that gets you thinking about sex.