This divide stems from a common understanding of human sexuality: The female variety of it is more malleable, more inherently open to experimentation and variety, than the male variety. In doing so, she shows that homosexual contact has been a regular feature of heterosexual life ever since the concepts of homo- and heterosexuality were first created — not just in prisons and frat houses and the military, but in biker gangs and even conservative suburban neighborhoods. And what I argue in the book is that even that research is situated within some long-held beliefs about the fundamental difference between men and women that are not accurate from a feminist perspective. You take readers on sort of a 20 th -century American tour of heterosexual dabbling in homosexual behavior, and there was never a lack of evidence that such dabbling took place. So that was one of the guiding questions through the book: What happens when we pull all of this evidence together? Right, right, right. I talk about that as the logic of homosexual necessity in the book and that comes up a lot, this claim that, well, men have to do this for X or Y reason. The photographic evidence of an elephant walk in the book is really important, I think. You view it as a way of performing heterosexuality, even if the content looks gay from the outside?
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Men who have sex with men MSM , also known as males who have sex with males , are male persons who engage in sexual activity with members of the same sex, regardless of how they identify themselves. The term MSM was created in the s by epidemiologists to study the spread of disease among men who have sex with men, regardless of identity. It does not describe any specific sexual activity, and which activities are covered by the term depends on context.
Graham Norton once joked that the difference between a straight man and a gay man was ' about four and half pints of lager in my experience '. Probably any toilet you go to is a beat. The fact the man was also married was later confirmed by a text to Max that claimed 'You give head as good as my wife does'. Another described a 'glory hole' set up in their apartment, where anonymous men could come to get off, without knowing the gender or identity of the person on the other side. It is about just getting off. Is it that easy to find another girl who is just willing to give a blow job and say nothing more? Guys know what other guys are like.
Many men who have sex with men MSM get referred to me by their straight therapists. Holding my books and other coming-out literature in their hands, they explain that their therapists have tried to help them come out. But since they say they are not gay, their therapist has sent them to me to assess their true orientation. I have seen hundreds of heterosexual men come to my office with same-sex behaviors worried that they might be gay. However I have always been able to help these men distinguish between their organic, innate sexual and romantic orientation as well as their sexual preferences.